Hedria Lunken will tell you, “It doesn’t get better. It only gets different.” That was her mantra as she struggled through the long journey of recovery, after her soul mate of 30+ years left her—for the grave.
An instructor in the “inspirational teaching” profession, Hedria discovered her talent to help others navigate change through the writing she did in her “letters to Paul,” a journal she kept for three years after his sudden death. In her despair and insecurity, lost in a world of senselessness, Hedria’s only release was in writing to her lost love, page after page of loneliness, anger, and finally, rejuvenation. Through it all, she learned how to cope with life’s intrusions—how to bear the loneliness, even when with friends; how to get up and accomplish small tasks, then bigger ones; even how to love again.
This is a book that will make you laugh. It will make you cry. It will inspire you to get up out of your chair or your bed, and tackle life’s challenges, one step at a time. Each chapter begins with Hedria’s insights and ends with a set of tools to help you traverse that bumpy road of change. Meant for women more so than men—because women are the one’s who most often find themselves needing to change, be it through death or divorce—this book challenges the reader to become someone, someone beyond the ‘someone’ you may have been in a past life, in a life the existed before the intrusion of death or divorce. Filled with humor, compassion, and practical advice, Square One at 51: What I did the day after I buried my life will have you looking forward to tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow. In a way you never did before.
In the Introduction, the author writes
I invite you to follow my steps from total shock to a new beginning . . . . read how I pushed myself to grow professionally and personally by creating and then accepting new challenges. If you’ve lost your soul mate, or faced making major changes in your life, you’ll recognize and understand the experiences I describe. Use this book to help you through your challenges and to find your way over the hurdles.
Hedria was able to help plan and then attend her daughter’s wedding, without Paul at her side. Her Masters of Science diploma in Creativity arrived in the mail only two weeks into her mourning, leaving her wondering what to do next, finally inspiring her to go out on her own—to become more than she thought she could become, and to achieve not only peace, but happiness. Today Hedria is remarried, she is a past president of the Creative Education Foundation, and she speaks and writes on navigating change.
Square One at 51: What I Did the Day After I Buried My Life can be purchased at the WME Books’ online bookstore at www.wmebooks.com, and will be offered on Amazon.com soon.